For me the term “Body Positivity” has always been closely connected to the fat acceptance movement (if you want to read one thing about FA today, please read this). Lately it’s been used a lot in main stream media, there basically is no way around #BoPo, everybody is talking about in on Instagram, in woman magazines, in YouTube videos and so on – so why do I more and more feel excluded instead of happy about the wide spread of this term and movement?
Everybody has issues but not every body is oppressed
I mean I get it, everyone has body issues. It’s not just fat people, no matter what gender you identify with, how old you are or how much you fall in or out of the beauty norm, we all are brought up with a certain level of self hate for our bodies and our looks. But no matter how much you hate your body, or just a certain part of it, that does not in any way dismiss the fact that some bodies inhabit a lot more privilege than others. What brings us to a very sensitive point and question: Is body positivity for everyone? I would say yes, but…
Yes of course body positivity applies to everyone, yes every single person on this planet has the right to love their body, to feel good in their body, to think of them as attractive or beautiful, but some voices need to be heard a lot louder than others. A thin, white cis woman, who is generally looked at as beautiful, attractive, healthy and happy just because she is white and thin and maybe even athletic, can have just as many issues and negative thoughts about herself than everyone else, maybe even more, but that doesn’t make her the person who has to have the loudest voice in the movement. And unfortunately the people who are met with the least amount of discrimination and refusal from society are the ones who make quite a lot of money with #BoPo campaigns, videos, instagram accounts and so on.
Positivity vs. Positivity
Furthermore I think there is a wildly wrong understanding of the word positivity in body positivity. For many people it is read or understood as “I am doing things that have a positive effect on my body therefore I must be body positive”, which isn’t wrong but does not cover the original idea of body positivity. To me the core of body positivity is to stop negative thinking and judgmental thoughts about not only mine but everyone else’s body. To stop making assumptions about other people and their body, to stop making myself feel better or worse by trying to compare my body to other bodies. It is about a mind set and not about actions. Of course does a change of mind set in the end effect my actions, but narrowing the whole movement down to #treatyourself and how healthy you are and how all of this has a positive effect on your body is simply wrong and does not resonate with what body positivity should be about.
Of course I am not the first person to rant about this, and there was a post on Bustle that kind of triggered my thoughts. And this quote does kind of sum it up really well for me
“It comes down to this: While a practice might feel empowering to an individual (which is great), its origins and grander role in a culture might not be empowering at a core level (which is not so great).”
Yes things, actions, thoughts can have a great affect on your personal attitude towards your body, they can empower you, they can help you to feel better, more healthy, more balanced and generally more positive, but that doesn’t mean that they count as body positive in it’s original understanding deeply connected to the fat acceptance movement. To be honest, most uses of body positivity go against what fat acceptance stand for, as it quickly provokes that thought that a fat personal can’t be body positive because being fat is not looked at as healthy or positive. If you want to read more about what others fat acceptance influencers have to say about this Bustle has another really good article for you.
Scottish weather quickly became my favorite kind of weather. I know it’s rainy and gray a lot of days but the fall is just so nice, crispy and perfect for layering new pieces and old friends from your closet to create a great fall outfit.
Friends from Germany were visiting last week, and so we spend one afternoon in the beautiful Royal Botanic Garden of Edinburgh. I’ve been visiting them again and again all over the year because it’s definitely always worth a stroll and one of my favorite cafés, the Marshmallow Lady, is very close. Thankfully Wiebke was so nice to take the time and shoot some outfit pictures with me. To be honest, even though I posted outfit pictures and of course selfies all year long on Instagram, I am a bit nervous about my first real outfit post after a year of not posting any fashion blog posts.
I love combining very light and rather thick materials, so when I saw this pleated baby blue skirt on ASOS I knew I could make it into a fall staple piece. I bought it together with this super soft grey sweater because I knew they would make a great match. And, some of you, might recognize an old friend of mine, my beloved Beth Ditto Biker Jacket, that is still with me. It’s torn and out oft shape, it has a huge hole on the right arm but I just can’t say good-bye. It’s been with me for over seven years now and was in one of my first outfit posts on my old fashion blog.
The only piece that was a rather disappointing buy this fall so far are these amazing boots. They are from Yoursclothing, and I really have to say I love their choice of fashionable wide fit shoes, but the quality just sucks. Yes there I said it, but it’s true. I’ve worn this shoes only a handful of times so far and now they are already falling apart at the heel of the right boot.
This necklace is a gift from my grandma, it belonged to my great grand aunt. Last year when I started my road trip I had to carefully chose a few pieces to take with me, because there wasn’t any room for different necklaces or unnecessary stuff like this. This silver chain and witchy pendant has since then been my go to necklace which I wear almost every day. The necklace comes with a matching ring. Generally I feel drawn towards silver at the moment, and I rather have one really nice necklace that doesn’t stain my skin than a handful of cheap ones that start to look off after wearing them a few times.
Soon fall will become a lot colder and darker, but I am ready for the season and looking forward to pair more old favorite pieces that I brought with me with new seasonal clothes. What old friends do you have in your closet that you just can’t let go of?
I am back, and literally asking myself: who starts a blog in 2016? That’s basically like starting a new print magazine, doomed to be dead already. But well, after years of blogging and a few month without, I realised I miss it. It’s not like I really need a new blog. There is still a hell lot of stuff to catch up with on my travel blog vom last years road trip. Or I could have easily reactive my old fashion blog “Reizende Rundungen“, but somehow the idea of “The Killerqueen” is floating around in my mind for some time now.
Back in the 90s, I was.. ehm nope, back in the 2000s
Somewhen in 2009 when blogging was about putting stuff out there immediately and social media marketing was a term that I had never heard of, I posted my first outfit. I felt bold and brave and like I had discovered new terrain that had hardly been touched. It’s not like I was the first plus size blogger, but I was one of the first fat German babes posting outfits and finding my way into fat acceptance, body positivity and feminism. Now, in September 2016, things have changed a lot. Being a plus size fashion blogger has become a job on it’s own. Body positivity is a main stream media click bait term and I proudly and fully like to call myself a feminist. So seven years later, at a point in my life where once again I feel like I changed a lot but still haven’t found the direction I am heading to, a new blog felt like the platform I need and want right now.
So sit back and relaxe, I also have no clue where this will lead us, but I am ready for outfit posts, emotional rants, talking about being fat, being a woman, being me, for posts about sex and dating and kink, about fashion and design and maybe even food.
I am Katrin and I am the Killerqueen. This blog may contain a lot of personal content about plus size fashion, feminism, sex or food. If you want to know more about me, head over to my about me.